- How much time did you spend with your siblings growing up?
a) A lot
b) Not as much as I would have liked
c) Very little
d) None at all
- Did both of your parents work outside of the home?
b) Only my dad
c) Only my mom
d) One or both worked off and on
- How did you get along with your siblings?
a) Extremely well
c) Not great
- What activities did you and your siblings share?
- How would you rate your parents’ (parent’s) discipline?
a) Very strict
d) What discipline?
- How often did your parents encourage you to get along with your siblings?
a) All the time
d) Not at all
- Did you or someone else take care of your younger sibling(s)? If you are an only child or a younger sib, who took care of you?
a) Yes. I was responsible more than I would have liked
b) I sometimes took care of my siblings
c) Rarely. We usually had a babysitter
- If a sibling were bullied and/or physically harmed, you would:
a) Step in immediately to help
b) Let him/her work it out without my help
c) Tell a parent
d) Post on Facebook or other social media sites
- Did your family take an annual vacation? How did it go? If you didn’t spend time together away from home, how was family time at home?
a) We had a blast
b) I was bored out of my mind
c) My sibling(s) and I fought all the time
d) I will never take another family vacation
- If you’re an adult, how do you get along with your siblings?
a) We’re best friends and help each other out as much as possible
b) We see each other occasionally
c) We don’t agree on much of anything
d) We are estranged
If you had 9 to 10 a’s, you enjoy a very close and supportive relationship with your sibling(s).
If you had 7 or 8 a’s, your relationship with your sib(s) has played a role in your life, mostly positive.
If you scored 6 or 5 a’s, you and your sib(s) are distant and don’t have much in common.
If you scored 4 to 0 a’s, you have a very conflicted or nonexistent connection with your sib(s).
How did you do? Surprised?
According to one large study, two-thirds of people said a brother or sister was one of their best friends. Jill Suitor, a sociologist at Purdue University, and her colleagues polled 274 families with 708 adult children (ages twenty-three to sixty-eight) in 2009 and found that the majority had good feelings toward their siblings.